Why We Need a Safe Place for the “Odd Moms”

I’m a little odd…I’ll admit it.

I’ve never really felt like I fit in.

Even during childhood, I was always aware that I was someone who didn’t make friends easily, who didn’t feel comfortable in a crowd, who felt like the other kids were laughing at her. It might be because I’m an only child (thanks, mom, and dad), or maybe it’s just my personality. Regardless, these feelings have stayed with me into adulthood.

Today, I am a 39-year-old woman. Professional career. Great husband. Supportive extended family. Mother to a wonderful daughter. And you know what? I still feel like I don’t fit in.

I still feel like I’m standing outside the circle, watching all these other women who seem to “click” with each other, and wondering… will I ever feel that closeness again?

My senior year of high school was probably the best time of my, thus far, meager social life. There was a group of us girls that year. We stuck to each other like glue. We partied, we could DRIVE (woo hoo!), we took a few road trips (some approved by the parental units; some not…wink, wink). We had THE BEST TIME! Of course, the end of that year came, we all went our separate ways, and life went on.

Over the years, I have come to accept that I’m just not the type of person who slips easily into close friendships. I’m an introvert and have a tendency to protect myself. I don’t let people close to me until I’m sure I can trust them.

Because of this, I’m often seen as cold, unfriendly, a snob, unapproachable, etc. I’m sure my tendency to protect myself has fed into these impressions. I know this and have tried over the years to open myself up to friendships, play dates, social networking groups, and the like.

The result…I’m still standing outside of the circle. The emptiness is still there. I still get sad. I still want a place for me…the odd mom…the one who never really feels like she fits in.

I can’t imagine that I’m the only woman, mother, wife that feels this way. And I began to wonder, are there other moms out there like me? What if I’m not alone in how I feel? What if I could create a space where other women who may feel like I do, can come… for support, celebration, inspiration, a good rant (husbands/partners/in laws…I’m talking about you here), or just to feel part of an understanding community. How amazing would that be?!

This idea of creating a community for all of us “odd moms” began to grow and take hold. I finally decided I needed to do something. And what better place to create a community than online?!

So I welcome you to The Odd Moms Club (OMC). Yes, it’s a blog with social outreach, and I hope you’ll enjoy it; but more than that, I want this club, this community, the OMC, to be a place where you can be yourself, where you feel safe, where we all celebrate and embrace our differences.

Without further ado, let’s get this party started! I would LOVE to hear from my fellow odd moms!

Comment below on what makes you an odd mom and/or what topics you would like to read about in future posts.

And please leave your email address so we can stay in touch!

Odd Moms Unite!

T

7 COMMENTS

  1. Nicolette | 7th Sep 17

    A thousand times, yes! This. Is. Me. Pretty much every word you said, I can relate to. About 4 years ago, however, I was invited to be part of a book club with some peers from church. And the rest is history. We have stuck with each other through thick & thin. And this didn’t happen for me until my late 30s. Thank you for reaching out and starting this! Odd Moms unite!

    • mntpetsit@gmail.com | 7th Sep 17

      Hi Nicolette! Thank you for the encouragement and kind words! I’m so happy for you to have found your “tribe”. It is such a precious thing. Stay tuned for more! 🙂

  2. Jess | 7th Sep 17

    Hi Tiffany! I’m going to raise my hand here and say “me!”. Your story resonates with me very well. For the longest time I didn’t quite feel like I fit in. Then I started getting into learning about personality types and took the Myers Briggs personality test. It was then that I discovered that I have the rarest of the 16 personalities, and found others online just like me. I think because there are so many extroverts in the world and how much school teaches us that that’s the way we should act that as an introvert we are looked at as odd. But, the truth is, almost half of the population is introverted. We are not all that odd in the grand scheme of things. So I personally love what you are doing here. If we embraced who we are and others begin to see this then we wouldn’t feel so out of place. Kudos to you! And thank you for creating a space where I can be me! ❤️

    • mntpetsit@gmail.com | 7th Sep 17

      Oh my goodness…I’m tearing up right now reading your comment. Thank you so much for the kind words. And you are so right about school and society. I’m really hoping we can make a difference here and I’m so excited to see it grow. I need to hunker down and get to writing some more!

  3. Shay | 7th Sep 17

    I too am “odd”, a loner, a misfit mom. I have 1 friend. 1.
    She has been my fiend for 16 but we live miles away. We certainly aren’t the only ones out there but it feels that way sometimes. I’m excited to be a part of the odd moms club!

    • mntpetsit@gmail.com | 7th Sep 17

      Thanks Shay! Excited to have you!

    • mntpetsit@gmail.com | 7th Sep 17

      What is your site so I can follow you back? 🙂

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